Fearing the dreaded "no more driving" talk with elderly parents

[BPTactical]

We had to have "the talk" with my dad. They live on the western slope and he would forget where he was going, where he had been and even forgot why a LE had pulled him over.
We explained to him that we were concerned that he may get misguided as far as his directions and end up in the middle of the adobe hills. We also told him that not everybody out there is a nice and caring soul and would help him if he needed itand some folks just have ill intent.
That seemed to sink in and although it was tough on him at first he now jokes about "Miss Daisy" driving him around.
It is tough to do and yes, it will hurt their feelings but you have to stand firm and stress the point of it being out of concern for them, because you love them and don't want to see any harm come to them.
Best O luck

[SAnd]

Check with their local driver licensing system. Some states have it set up to where you can ask them to be tested. Their insurance agent, or your agent, might have advice on how to deal with the situation. The insurance agent have a training course for older people that would help them know it's time to quit.

If they do internet stuff you might send them some links to videos showing older drivers and accidents.

You could appeal to their attachment to the family. Tell them how bad the family will feel when they get hurt in an accident.

It will help if you could research or arrange alternate transportation. A lot of it can be a fear of not having any way to get food, or to the store, or to church. They are losing their freedom. Find ways to help them get around so you can show them they aren't losing the freedom as much as changing the way they are doing things.

Don't give up. You're helping others, not just your parents.